Growing Your Confidence is Like Building a House
Most of us become quite frustrated because unlike that fictional movie character, the process to growing our own confidence takes much longer than two hours.
And most of us quit trying, believing the lie that “it’s just not for us.” But the truth is, it is for you.
Are You Going to Win the Day or Not?
Are you getting distracted by worrying about what everyone else is doing, believing they’re your competition? Or are you focused in on your finish line and what you’re really up against?
To Make 2019 Great, Do This First
I explore what you need to do with last year before you can make 2019 your best year yet.
Learn the mindset that Competitors have when heading into a new year, and how you too can take this mindset to set yourself up for unparalleled growth in 2019.
Finding Motivation When You’re In a Rut
A friend recently asked for help getting out of his rut. He’s been a competitive athlete the last decade and due to injuries and changes in his life, is no longer competing for sport. He’s losing motivation to go workout and looking for a spark.
What should he do?
I share my four tips for creating motivation for your workout / fitness routine when you’re short on it.
- Why a shift in your perspective and focus is crucial.
- How to mix things up for a fresh start.
- How to be held accountable.
- Why a workout partner helps you raise the standard.
What’s one thing you do to create motivation to workout when you don’t have it? Share below in the comments!
Why Now Is Better
I used to believe that if I didn’t start at an earlier (“better”) time, then there was no use starting now.
Because, I knew that if I had started when I originally said I was going to, I’d be so much farther down the road now.
My success would be greater than it is currently IF I’d just started then.
This soundtrack plays on repeat – and the scary thing is that it can keep me from starting now because I’m only thinking about “how great it would’ve been if I had started then.”
But stressing about when I *should* have originally started keeps me from doing what I need to do. (more…)
How to Manage Your Gap
I think a lot of people can relate to the idea of starting fresh and starting over.
The “getting ramped up and getting moving” sucks. For example, when I started my professional speaking career, I quickly grew frustrated because you are emailing, contacting and reaching out to people – and you’re not getting any responses. It’s like any sales job. You hear NO 10,000 times just to hear one YES!
You are constantly reaching out to others, just trying to get some momentum forward. You book a speech, and then you wait a long while, and then you finally book another one, and then another one. It’s a slow build, and with today’s hyper “highlight reel” focus, especially in social media, you can’t help but see everyone else online “winning” while you’re slow getting out of the gates Like most industries, you’re connected with others in your space. You see them out there and (assume) they’re only just winning – and the whispers start to build in your head of the GAP – between where you are right now and where you think you should be.
But it just doesn’t work that way. (more…)
Bumps & Bruises
It’s been a whirlwind start to the year and if you’re anything like me, it feels like I’m already a behind just a few weeks in. Right?
I spent this past week in Philadelphia with a handful of other public speakers working on our new keynote speeches and training to be better storytellers. One evening, a group of us went out to dinner and started talking about the experience. The conversation hit me right between the eyes as something I think you can relate to.
Each one of us sharing how we thought we knew how to speak effectively from the stage, but the last few days had busted our egos pretty good. We were being hard on ourselves while trying to better ourselves – and ironically, that doesn’t work.
One of the guys in our group made the analogy that he’d just come to terms with. A lifelong skier, he shared that if he were going to take up snowboarding, he’d expect to spend a few days falling, getting beat up & bruised rolling down the mountain while training to pick up this new skill. He knew how to ski a mountain great, but trade his skis for a snowboard and he’d be in trouble.
He’d expected the bumps & bruises snowboarding, but was being down on himself for going through the same experience learning how to better perform from the stage as a storyteller.
The snow was the same, but the equipment was different. His speech was slightly the same, but the delivery was different. Why wouldn’t he have bumps and bruises? Like him, I get incredibly frustrated by slow progress, even though in a different arena, I’d expect the progress to be slow and painful.
Can you relate to that feeling? (more…)
Courage Over Comfort
Courage or comfort? What will you choose? Do you want your life to be remembered as one represented by courage, or as one represented by comfort? The best stories – and lives – are those dictated by courage.
Here’s how you can live more boldly with yours.
How to Set – and CRUSH – Big Goals
How do you set a big goal and just smash the shit out of it?
You’ve got to have accountability. Every big dream, every big goal that you set requires accountability in order to reach it.
So, let’s break this down.
A big goal you may have for this year is that you want to get a ton stronger. That’s not really specific. Maybe you want to get a little stronger. Maybe a ton stronger. What’s the difference in those two? If you don’t set a specific goal, you cannot have anything to aim at. (more…)
How to Create a Positive Attitude
How do you maintain a positive attitude when everything around you is negative or going to shit? How do you get past the bad situations in life that occur and focus on the good? I share some tips on how I work to shift my mindset from disappointment to future success. (more…)